Mike, a well known architect, suffered tremendously for years internally as he had no idea who he really was. Trying to please everyone was actually what landed him the job that he has. His efforts to please his parents early on landed him in his current position as this was always their dream for his life. However deep down inside Mike really had aspirations of becoming a lawyer. But, to appease his father’s and mother’s wishes he became an architect and was miserable for many years.

Now in his 40’s Mike has finally realized that this is not actually what he wants to do, but he doesn’t know how to break free and be honest with his parents, so he continues day-after-day- after day–smiling on the outside but screaming on this inside.

Mike suffers from a case of mistaken identity.

The bible tells us that the thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy but that Jesus came that we might have life and have it more abundantly. The thief has stolen Mike’s true identity and as a result Mike is miserable.

Mike finally came to the realization that in order to break free, there were several things he had to do. In order to be true to who he was he would have to break free from the past as it related to his parents desires for him. In order to be happy and really live he would have to pursue HIS purpose and so he began the journey of discovery, healing, and purpose.

I share with you about Mike (who happens to be a fictional character) for the sake of these writings. What I ask you to do is take a look at yourself. Ask yourself some serious deep questions if you feel unfulfilled and are doing things for the sake of pleasing others. Questions like–

  • Who am I?
  • Whose am I?
  • Why am I here?
  • What do I believe to be my purpose?
  • Who or what is holding me back?
  • What steps do I need to take to get my life on track for where I want to go?
  • How and when will I begin?
  • Who will I need to help me correct my life’s course?
  • Do I need to continue education in certain areas?
  • Do I need to shake off feelings of inadequacy or low self-esteem?

You see, I write about Mike’s suffering with a case of mistaken identity, but this very well could be you. Having been the victim of identity theft, not one, not two but three times, I know the discomforts and pain one goes through in an attempt to regain or have our identity restored. Just as we go through the emotional discomforts and often physically draining process of the time, effort, and energy in getting our identity restored, so we must go through the same, or a similar process in getting our spiritual identity restored; of finding our true selves.

Once we go through the process of answering the hard questions, we are well on our way to becoming amazingly free; free to be the real us that God intended us to be. You see, He put the desires within each of us to do certain things. Others unintentionally often douses our desires and puts our “fire” out with loads of water/guilt/opinions in an effort for us to become who “they” expect or perceive us to be.

People, sometimes well-meaning, other times not, can and often will stereotype you due to your upbringing, your occupation, the color of your skin, where you live, your educational background, and how they perceive you to be BUT that doesn’t define who you truly are. They will try to silence the real you. Don’t allow that to happen.

Dig deep and break free. In doing so, you are no longer suffering from a case of mistaken identity and then are able to live your life as God intended.

No one can rob you of your true identity unless you allow them to do so. Be the real you and the best version of you that you can be– daily growing. It’s time to break free!